It’s not a diet or food plan. There is no pass or fail, therefore there is no “blowing it”

Intuitive eating is an approach to health and food that has nothing to do with diets, meal plans, discipline or willpower. It teaches you how to get in touch with your body cues like hunger, fullness and satisfaction while learning to trust your body around food again.

In this article you will find an overview of intuitive eating including the science behind it, the ten principles of intuitive eating, and the difference between intuitive eating and mindful eating.

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What Is Intuitive Eating?

Intuitive eating is a non-diet approach to health and wellness that helps you tune into your body signals, break the cycle of chronic dieting and heal your relationship with food. The intuitive eating framework was created by two registered dietitians, Evelyn Tribole and Elyse Resch, in 1995, based on their experience working with clients.

Tribole and Resch’s intuitive eating framework is a non-diet, self-care approach to nutrition, health, and well-being that helps people make decisions based upon their bodies’ inner wisdom instead of external rules or restrictions. Rather than using outside sources—such as counting calories or points, measuring portions, or following certain eating or food rules—to determine what, when, and how much to eat, you turn inward and listen to, and trust, your body’s cues to guide you.

We Are Born Intuitive Eaters

We are all born with the instinct to know when we are hungry and how much we need to eat. It is programmed into our brains from birth; we come into the world knowing how to feel hunger and use that cue to drive us toward food and eating. Just watch any baby, and you will see this instinctive eating at play. When babies feel hungry, they will cry until fed. Once they start feeding, they will eat until full and then refuse any more. This cycle then repeats itself every few hours. Babies naturally know how to honor their hunger cues; the drive to eat is instinctive.

We aren’t born holding judgments of what foods are “good” or “bad,” what the “proper portion” is, or how much food is “too much.” If you look at any toddler, who has adequate access to a variety of food, and you can see this at play.

I witnessed this firsthand with my twin niece and nephew when they were around two years old. They loved all kinds of foods, and they loved to eat, but what and how much they ate varied greatly from day to day. Some days, even if I fed them one of their favorite foods, they’d take just a few bites before confidently proclaiming, “All done!” and hopping up to go play. Then, without fail, the next day or two, they would be bottomless pits—I couldn’t feed them enough! And that makes sense because, despite what diet culture tells us, our bodies do not need the same amount of food every single day.

Outside Factors Disrupt Our Innate Connection

As we get older, outside factors begin to get in the way of this deep connection to our inner body wisdom. Any situation in which you experience food deprivation will make it difficult to listen to your natural hunger, fullness, and satisfaction cues.

Whether this deprivation is caused by poverty, where there is a very real chance that you won’t have enough food, a medical condition that causes trauma and disrupts your connection to your body (I’ll address both these factors in more detail later in this chapter), or via diet culture, the outcome is the same. In these circumstances, food—and our relationship to it—is no longer simple and pleasurable; it becomes complicated and often problematic.

Diet culture is a big factor in deprivation for many people. Diet culture weasels its way into our brains from a very young age. Most of my clients can recall being as young as four or five years old and having an adult limit their food because they were eating “too much” or because sugar was “bad.”

Well-meaning parents or caregivers may have set rules and restrictions related to food dictating what, when, and how much you were allowed to eat. You may have been taught to finish everything on your plate or learned that dessert is a reward that can only be eaten after eating vegetables (and can be taken away if you misbehave). Over time, you were taught that your body—and your appetite—can’t be trusted. That you can’t be trusted.

The good news is that wisdom is still in you, and you can find your way back to it.

The 10 Principles of Intuitive Eating

The intuitive eating framework includes ten principles. I’ve gone into more detail in other blog posts, but here is a quick synopsis of each.

Note: these principles should NOT be applied as a rigid set of “rules” that must be followed sequentially and precisely as the book dictates. Rather, they are a framework that can be used as a tool to help you reconnect to your body and learn to nourish yourself outside of diet culture. Certain principles may feel more helpful; other parts not so much – and that is okay. 

Principle 1. Reject the Diet Mentality

Diet culture can causes you to internalize the unhelpful thoughts, feelings, rules, and restrictions related to food – this is known as “diet mentality”. To move away from dieting, you need to become aware of how the diet mentality shows up in your life and the ways it undermines your connection to your body.

Rejecting the diet mentality isn’t a one-and-done affair that happens overnight. It is a process you’ll work on throughout your journey. Although you may have already figured out some ways diet mentality is harmful, there are going to be times when dieting—or gaining “control” over your eating—will feel tempting. Having a strong understanding of the reasons why you want to heal your relationship to food (and your body and yourself) will help you when the process gets tough.

Start to reflect:

• Where has your focus on weight loss gotten you to at this point in your life?
• What has it done to your body? Your mind?

Remind yourself that it’s not about your lack of willpower or about you being a failure. It’s the system of dieting that is the problem – diets and focusing on body size are a set up for failure.

Principle 2. Honor Your Hunger

Hunger is not a four-letter word – it is a normal, lifesaving, biological cue from your body. Think of this biological cues as a sign that your body is speaking to you and asking you to listen and take care of it. Just as you respond to other signals your body gives you (like going to the bathroom when you need to pee), you need to respond to hunger in the same way: by eating.

Your body needs to know, and to trust, that it will consistently have access to food. If you ignore your hunger cues, your body responds with increasing signals to try to get you to eat. Your mouth salivates. Your stomach growls. Your brain can think of nothing but food.

Learning to feel, trust, and honor your hunger cues is a foundational part of the intuitive eating journey and will help you to improve your interoceptive awareness, the ability to feel your body’s physical sensations, including those of hunger and satiety. 

Start to reflect:

• Are there times when you felt hunger but didn’t eat?
• How come?

One tool that can be helpful to practice getting in tune with your hunger cues is the hunger-fullness scale.

In intuitive eating, we also recognize that sometimes we might not feel hungry (say we’re busy, stressed, or drank a lot of coffee). Even if our hunger cues are off, it’s important to ensure we are eating enough throughout the day (regular meals and snacks) in order to stay adequately nourished.

Principle 3. Make Peace with Food

This principle is about working to allow all foods into your diet and giving yourself unconditional permission to eat whatever you want. Now you may be thinking something along the lines of “But if I eat whatever I want, I’ll be so out of control and never stop!”

The reality is, the reason you feel out of control around food is because of external rules and guidelines about what you can and can’t. Restriction and deprivation breed guilt, and your body perceives that starvation is on the horizon.

Your drive to eat increases, which eventually leads to more cravings and a greater likelihood of binge-type eating behavior. Whenever you limit the amount or type of food you eat, you’re setting yourself up to crave more of those foods in the future. Restriction and rules around food may feel like a way to take control in the moment, but those constraints are what end up keeping you feeling so out of control and entangled with food.

The Deprivation-Binge Pendulum below is one way to visualize this:

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The remedy: try to allow yourself unconditional permission to eat—and enjoy—food. By doing so, you can (eventually) end your body’s feelings of deprivation, pull yourself out of the dieting cycle, and rebuild trust with your body.

Here’s what I mean when I say “unconditional permission”:

• Releasing any physical and mental food restriction that you may still be holding onto
• Noticing any diet mentality that you may still be partaking in and letting that go
• Allowing yourself to eat what you want when you want it
• Creating abundance with food, both physically and intellectually
• Adjusting your language to make all foods neutral

Once you stop depriving yourself and put all foods on an even playing field, you can tune in to your body’s inner wisdom to figure out what it is you really want to eat.

Principle 4. Challenge the Food Police.

The food police is a specific type of inner critic voice made up of all of the externally driven rules and beliefs about food that have become internalized deep within your brain. This voice judges what you eat, when you eat, and how you eat. The food police voice sets the rules by which anything you eat (or don’t eat) is judged. These rules pop up daily to monitor your food decisions, like declaring you “good” for eating a salad and “bad” for choosing the burger.

Other common food police thoughts may include:

• No eating after a certain time at night. 
• I know your stomach is growling, but it’s not time to eat yet; you have to wait for dinner.
• You can’t have that bagel; it has way too many carbs.
• That meal was too big—better make sure you go to the gym to burn it off.
• You ate a sandwich for lunch, so no bread at dinner.

Although some of these rules might not seem bad, they can be harmful because they use external factors rather than internal ones to dictate food choices. Even if you’re not dieting, your inner food police voice is still around and usually causes mental restriction.

These daily reminders make it tough to view eating as a normal, pleasurable activity. Instead, any time you eat becomes a situation in which you’ve either succeeded or failed. Choose a salad for lunch, and you’ve been “good”. Have fries with your burger, and you’re “bad”. This food police voice sets impossible standards and, when you “break a rule,” sets you up for overeating (because what the hell—the day is already shot, right?).

Learning to notice and then reframe the food police allows you to make food choices based on your body’s health and satisfaction rather than on external diet rules or deprivation.

Principle 5. Discover the Satisfaction Factor

There is a a difference between fullness and satisfaction. Contrary to popular belief, physical feelings of fullness are not what turn off our drive to eat. Satisfaction is involved, as well.  For your body to feel truly fulfilled by a meal or snack, you have to eat something that you find satisfying and enjoyable. 

“Fullness is a physical sensation of satiety, while satisfaction is the mental sensation of satiety.”

For example, if I eat a huge bowl of raw vegetables, my stomach feels physically full, but I am in no way satisfied. If you are not satisfied with what you are eating, you will probably continue to feel the urge to keep eating, even if you are physically full. 

Pleasure, satisfaction, and enjoyment are important components of a healthy diet. When you don’t get the pleasure that you are seeking, your brain interprets that missed experience as hunger, so you continue to eat more and more in an attempt to feel satisfied.

Principle 6. Feel Your Fullness

“My problem is I just can’t stop eating when I’m full”—I hear this all the time. Here’s the thing: The reason you may eat past the point of “comfortable” fullness has pretty much nothing to do with noticing and feeling your fullness.

Yes, some people are out of touch with what “comfortable” fullness feels like, but just being able to tell what various types fullness cues feel like is usually not what actually makes people stop eating.

Trying to force yourself to “stop when full” never works long term. It always ends up backfiring because it causes a sense of scarcity in the body and can bring up restrictive thoughts or feelings. I find that most people will get to a point where they naturally feel “done” eating—not because they are forcing themselves to stop, but because their body stops wanting food.

To get to the point where you naturally notice and honor your fullness signals, you need to first:

• Be aware of your hunger cues.
• Eat consistently throughout the day (and every time you feel hungry).
• Allow yourself permission to eat whatever you want.

When you are tuned into your hunger signals, eating satisfying and filling foods whenever you feel hungry, letting go of physical restriction, and reframing restrictive thoughts, then you don’t really need to pay much attention to fullness.

You may be thinking something to the effect of, “Yeahhhh…no way.” But trust me; when you’re doing all of these things, what you’re really doing is building back body trust. So your body begins to trust that you’ll allow it whatever it wants the next time it sends a hunger cue. When you build back that trust, you’ll start to naturally notice that you will hit a point when you feel “done” eating.

Principle 7. Cope With Your Emotions with Kindness

Emotional eating is when we eat for reasons other than physical hunger, such as using food to help cover up unpleasant feelings and emotions. If you notice this happening, the first thing to do is to be kind to yourself.

Emotional eating is often demonized, labeled as “wrong” or “bad,” but it can actually be a helpful coping mechanism. Not to mention, it is totally normal. Emotional eating has likely helped support you through many difficult situations, and there is no expectation to let go of it entirely. 

It may become a problem if eating is the only coping tool that you have (and/or if it is not working to help you cope). Try to practice and cultivate a variety of coping skills that you can call on when you need support.

In this process, you might find it beneficial to work with a therapist, intuitive eating counselor, or practitioner specializing in a mindfulness-based healing modality, such as pilates or movement. 

Also important to consider: if you often feel out of control when you eat “forbidden foods” or when you eat when you are overly hungry — this can feel like emotional eating, but it is really your body recovering from restriction.

Principle 8. Respect Your Body.

Body Respect means that you listen to your body, serve your body by caring for it physically and mentally, are kind and compassionate to your body, and appreciate your body as it is right now.

Loving your body is not a prerequisite for respecting it. You can respect your body no matter how you feel about it because respect begins when you recognize that you are valuable and worthy of care just as you are today. Regardless of how your body looks, how it works, or how you feel about it. Respecting your body doesn’t start when you feel good about your body; it starts when you realize your worth as a person is inherent and everlasting.

You are in a relationship with your body; it is a two-way street where information and experiences are communicated back and forth. A healthy relationship with your body cannot exist without mutual respect.

When you speak badly about yourself, ignore your body’s signals, or put others’ needs in front of your own, you send your body the message that you don’t respect or value it. Most people try to avoid disrespecting someone they care about. Yet, how many of us stop to consider how we might be disrespecting ourselves?

See if you can shift your focus from physical “imperfections” and comparison to others to all of the things your body does for you and why you are grateful for it. At the same time, it is okay to struggle with this. Have compassion for and patience with yourself – unlearning and relearning takes time, and it’s a constant journey.

Principle 9. Movement – Feel The Difference.

Many people approach exercise as something they “should do” or something to check off the (never ending) to-do list. We know it’s good for our health, yet it becomes something we either dread, force ourselves to do, or struggle to do at all. Especially given how weight-focused and appearance-driven society, exercise becomes something we “have to” or “should” do, instead of something we want to do. This is also why it is so hard for many people to start or maintain a consistent exercise practice.

Intuitive Movement is the practice of paying attention to and connecting to your body. Instead of focusing on the exercise you think you “should” be doing, shift your focus to what types of movement feel good to you. This can take some practice and experimentation. 

Forget about the calorie burning effect of exercise and think about how you feel after working out. Do you feel energized? Do you sleep better? Turn the focus from numbers like weight and calories to how you feel. Pay attention to energy levels, strength, flexibility, sleep, stress levels, and more – because exercise has all of these benefits. 

Principle 10. Honor Your Health with Gentle Nutrition.

We are taught how to use nutrition to manipulate and control our bodies but never learn how to eat or move in a way that truly nourishes us physically and mentally. This is where the intuitive eating concepts of gentle nutrition can be helpful. Gentle nutrition is about making a decision about what to eat from a place of self-care and body respect, rather than self-control or deprivation. 

Gentle nutrition uses both your body knowledge and your brain knowledge to make food choices that honor your body cues and your health. Your body knowledge includes your inner wisdom, such as your ability to feel hunger cues, know what foods satisfy you, and understand how different foods make you feel. Your brain knowledge is built from your eating experiences and incorporates some external wisdom.

For example, you may feel like eating a donut and know that it will satisfy you. But you also remember that the last time you had a donut for breakfast, you were hungry soon after and experienced an energy crash in the late morning. Brain knowledge might also pipe in to remind you that it’s been several days since you had a piece of fruit and suggest that maybe you can add it to your meal today.

The use of the word gentle reflects the flexibility and permission that is inherent and integral to respecting your body. Being healthy doesn’t mean eating “perfectly”. Consider how certain foods make you feel, in addition to how tasty and satisfying they are to you. It’s the consistency of what you eat over time – it’s not all or nothing. If we’re still caught up in diet mentality, nutrition can sometimes be seen by the body as a form of restriction. For that reason, some people find it helpful to work through other principles before focusing on gentle nutrition.

The Science Behind Intuitive Eating

To date there are over 125 research studies that have shown the benefits of intuitive eating. The studies found that intuitive eating is associated with:

• Higher self-esteem
• Better body image
• More satisfaction with life
• Optimism and well-being
• Proactive coping skills
• Higher HDL cholesterol levels
• Lower Triglyceride levels
• Lower rates of emotional eating
• Lower rates of disordered eating

In addition to noting these benefits, you can find more ways to measure your progress on your intuitive eating journey with one-on-one coaching.

What’s the Difference Between Intuitive Eating and Mindful Eating?

Before I started my training in intuitive eating, I used the terms mindful eating and intuitive eating interchangeably. Although there are some overlaps, the two concepts are different.

The Center for Mindful Eating defines mindful eating as “allowing yourself to become aware of the positive and nurturing opportunities that are available through food selection and preparation by respecting your own inner wisdom” and “using all your senses in choosing to eat food that is both satisfying to you and nourishing to your body and becoming aware of physical hunger and satiety cues to guide your decisions to begin and end eating.”

It’s evident from this definition that intuitive eating encompasses the principles of mindful eating. However, intuitive eating goes a step further by also addressing the importance of rejecting the dieting mentality, respecting your body (regardless of your weight or shape), coping with emotions, and using gentle movement and nutrition without judgment.

I like to imagine the intuitive eating framework as an umbrella, and mindful eating is one spoke that helps to support the umbrella. Mindful eating—that is, paying attention to what and how you’re eating—can be a helpful tool as you work toward listening to your body. Mindfulness skills allow you to notice, pause, and explore your thoughts, feelings, and experiences. Using mindfulness skills during a meal or eating experience can be helpful.

The problem I see is that many people turn the idea of mindful eating into something black and white (binary thinking strikes again!). It becomes something that must be done “perfectly,” where eating must take place with absolutely no distractions (or else it is “mindless”, which is “bad”).

For most people, this interpretation of mindful eating is entirely unrealistic, not to mention inflexible. This approach vilifies “mindless eating,” and partaking in any type of distracted eating can set people up for feelings of guilt, shame, and failure.

Rather than try to use mindful eating to “fix” a problem, I find that it’s most helpful to use mindfulness techniques to unpack, explore, and get curious about what is happening. Try not to approach it with the assumption that mindful eating will help you eat less because this will just keep you in the dieting cycle. Instead, notice, pause, and check in with yourself. In this way, mindful eating can be a useful tool to help you reconnect with your body and get back to a place of eating more intuitively.

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